NEW YEAR REALLY CAN REALLY MEAN A NEW YOU!

I don't know what I hate more New Years Eve, OR fact that everyone is ALL about the NEW "them" for the New Year!

Amazing that we need a new year to set goals to feel like we can actually hit them. I am not a fan of New Years, V-day, anything so commercially related that I would rather stay home. AND I am certainly not into setting goals that you have to meet because it's a new year. I am dying my hair for the 1st time today, via over the counter...YES over the counter. I found a couple of grey hairs so it seems it's time for me to dive over to the other side and die my freaking hair! Makes me feel old for 1, and kind of annoyed that I have to spend the time dealing with it when I don't really want too. HOWEVER, I am also kinda psyched b/c the last time I ddi it was in college...for shits and giggles, and I happened to like it just never kept up with it!

Any hoo....wishing everyone a very happy new year, health and happiness to all!
Until we meet again...
XOXO
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EFF THE HOLIDAYS

Holidays are never good for anyone. It's ironic that everyone is about spreading love and cheer...but it's the time that everyone argues the most? It's so nice walking into starbucks and seeing the "red" cups, or the snowflake above Bergdorf Goodman's on 5th. BUT it is so a time of stress too. MO MONEY MO PROBLEMS! You know the drill.

I like to think that everyone feels more united, but it seems everyone just feels more obligations? I would like to think it's a time for family and friends to get together, but that just equals a bigger weight gain; and a a question of who can be the bigger problem drinker:)

In any event, we enter this time of year EVERY year...and always will. So we can think about it like this, we can eat more, drink more (and not feel guilty) get things, as well as give things and take some time off. All the more reason to begin the celebration a bit earlier this year!

XOXOXO
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STAR LIGHT STAR BRIGHT....

I SO wish that I had more time to talk, talk about anything and everything...in fact talk about things that really are not even that important; but somehow informative? If that makes any sense at all!! BUT I don't. Barely have time to go to the bathroom without one of them yelling for me. "Them" meaning my kids and/or my man.

See...even now, that's all she wrote!
xoxo
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EW

JUST IMMUNIZE!!!!
EW

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/10/25/an-unnecessary-measles-outbreak/?smid=tw-nytimesstyle&seid=auto

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DO YOU HAVE TO RESPECT TO BE RESPECTED?

I am sure I may get some heat for this...but truly, do you have to respect someone to be respected back. I kinda think no!?!?!!?
I feel like nowadays...there are junior employees (certainly not at my company), who don't understand their position in the company there are working for, OR their place in the world when it comes to their experience level. I think there were times in my life I did not want to to act a certain way, or I wanted to treat someone a certain way..but at the end of the day, they were older than me, more experience in life than me, so the bottom line was...I respected that!

I think a lot of it was communicated to me via my parents; they drilled it into my head that I needed to respect people for XY and Z reasons...and in the end they were 100% right! It's not always easy, b/c sometimes you feel like you should be treated the way they should be treated, when in fact that's just not the case; AND of course this always relates back to people who are typically younger than your or less experienced which is even the stranger thing!

Anyway, just food for thought!
xoxoxo
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"ONLY THE GOOD DIE YOUNG..."

There is such truth to that statement.."Only the good die young." It's amazing to think of all the incredible people who make a mark on this world, and die before they can truly realize the impact they have had on people; and our society. I am hoping that steven Jobs really knew the "ding" he made in the world, I am thinking that he did.

When you are a true visionary in your field, you can see the potential and reason of things before anyone else can. You can talk about things you want to happen, and it only takes one person to believe you can make those things happen. I am always curious to see what people will say about me when it's my time. I mean in time of death even people we may have not thought were great get a pass. What I am hoping is that I perfect my skills in my industry, but leave a bigger legacy helping people in some way. I guess that might be the book I wrote and the ones I want to potentially write, after this one. I can't cure cancer by putting pretty things on pretty people, but I can make things more understandable for the average person when it comes to my real life.

I remember a teacher in HS saying to me, you can't always write like you talk...it won't make sense in an essay. He was right, very right...but the funny thing is, I did not want to write a typical essay I wanted to write like I speak. I am thankful that the world is a different place today and that I can do that, write like I talk. I can write openly, honestly and with much integrity.

Forget your carbon footprint, make sure you do what you love in life because you cannot live forever.

Much love!
XOXO
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I CAN'T POSSIBLY BE THE ONLY SANE PERSON ON THIS EARTH...

There are very few people I can honestly say, are always on point! I could name the few on maybe 2 hands that are either related to me, or friends of mine..the rest are just plain INSANE! I can't be THAT off all the time, and most of those who agree with me...think that the rest of the world is insane too! AND I don't know maybe it's when you get older your views get skewed and you can't quite see things clearly? OR maybe it's because I am so liberal and don't understand why everyone else is not? It seems to get worse with age!

I do know those "like" people, tend to stick together...so to them, whatever they are saying makes sense? BUT then wouldn't that put me in the same category? I don't know, the big question is..."how do you know that your thinking is normal?" "What is normal?"

Well Friday could not come fast enough, so that for 2 days I can pretend like these people don't even EXISIT!!

CIAO for now!
XOXO
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THINGS ARE NEVER WHAT THEY SEEM....

SO, I had an interesting turn of events today...things "changed", and I thought I was good with change, but I am beginning to re-think that...in some ways?

Let's just say, we were going in a different direction with the book and now have to pull back and reassess...which would be fine, if I heard it from the horses mouth. INSTEAD, I had some changes relayed by someone else, and that makes me A. annoyed B. wanna call the person pussy balls (but that part I left out, for now). I don't know why people can't deal with things head on? I mean for obvious reasons, fine...but having people do your dirty work, is kinda like giving someone a hand-job; there's kinda no point when they can do it themselves?

In any event, I welcome change b/c something that was going on was not working...so in theory it's all well and good. So I sit here writing this now, and know the things we have decided to not do is probably for the best.

PS: how do so many people on any of "The Real Housewives" shows, faces literally not move? It's kinda amazing...it is weird to think I find it kinda cool?

XOXO
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WOW, did that really happen to me?

SO, this AM I got a text from Beth saying her cars were broken into, IN her driveway! Talk about freaky....BUT it reminded me that I had a similar experience; or rather an even more frightening one.

In 1996, I was car-jacked at gun point in Columbus, OH...while attending college at OSU. It's weird, I must have blocked a huge portion of what happened from my memory, so much that I forgot for a second that it even happened. AND THEN all of a sudden it all comes rushing back to me. That feeling of helplessness when I wanted to literally knock out the person doing it to me. The moment of this could be the end, how have I spent my past years on this earth? (mind you I was only like 20). It's amazing to think it was that long ago, and I can still really remember it like it was yesterday.

Needless to say, there are some nutty people on this earth, you just never know when in your life you may encounter someone who is just not sane. I hate to think you have to live your life sleeping with one eye open, BUT none the less...better to be safe than sorry...

UGH not my usual delightful one, but certainly a life changing event for this girl.

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TERRIBLE TUESDAY

There's nothing like this, this day did, does and always will SUCK!!!!!

"RAINY DAYS AND MONDAYS...."

Karen Carpenter said it beautifully..."Rainy days and Mondays always gets me down..". HOWEVER, rainy sundays, when I took the upcoming week off, is a beautiful thing! Just hanging in the apt with the family, what a fantastic thing; due in part to the fact that we rarely get to do out!

Picture this, the apt a TOTAL mess with toys and everything, everyone STILL in their pajamas AND Rio the movie on! SO freaking fun! We are not in a rush to go anywhere or see anyone, literally just doing things around the house, getting organized for our trip to Hershey Park this week, and spending QT time together!

No place I would rather be...although I do have to throw in a workout at some point too! HA!

See yah!
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DO ANNOYING PEOPLE KNOW THEY ARE ANNOYING?

I asked my mom at the ripe old age of 3 one day, "Mommy...do skunks know they smell? And if they don't, why don't their friends tell me that they smell!" SO my thinking is, do annoying people know they are annoying? Like do they know everyone thinks that they are annoying?

I don't know if that's really rhetorical, because I am inclined to say..NO, they have no idea; WHICH by the way makes them even MORE annoying! I guess then do people really have an honest account, on how others feel about that? I mean I feel like I am a pretty good judge of character (def. had some clients that we knew in in our gut, from the get-go where not all with it), but then in the end...editors helped us realize we were in fact right, they were whacked! BUT other than those few unfortunate mis-haps...I would hope everyone has some idea about what others think about them!

In any event, I have had a really ANNOYING day, thank the F__G lord it's FRIDAY!!!!
ENJOY the weekend!!


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HOLY SHIT, THIS ONE MIGHT TAKE THE CAKE!

So, there I am sitting with one of my best girlfriends (Lindsay Huggins), enjoying a nice glass of vino...when some TOTALLY odd woman turns to Lindz and says, "Um excuse me, would you mind taking your umbrella (which by the way was the size of a hand) off the bar? You know you just don't put those kinds of things up there (and mind you she was sitting about 4 seats away from us, so not even REMOTELY close to us). I looked at her, looked at lindsay and her again. Lindsay nicely (for god knows what reason, because obviously lindsay is a 34 year old woman who knows right from wrong) obliged. I then kindly asked the same woman to remove her bag from the bar, because well you know...you just don't do that sort of thing....
REALLY? FOR FUCK SAKE! GET A LIFE!!!

Nuff said!
xoxo
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LIFE AFTER....

I have been FEVERISHLY working on getting all the images, proposal and then some up to par...for my lovely agent to run with it! AND what I have noticed is that, between the business, the 2 kids, the husband and then of course other obligations...I have side-tracked my blog (not intentionally of course). BUT I am back now...to talk more and say less? I don't know whatever that means.

So two kids is a total shit show at times, but others it's just great! I don't think the transition from having 1 kid to 2 kids, hit me NEARLY as hard as 0 kids to 1 kid! I think I anticipated the worst and hoped for the best? There was no way another Aiden would come out of me, so instead I had a mini Brian. The most delicious, laid back, easy going kid...with a little streak from me; kinda perfect! I think the hardest thing is balancing the freaking calendar of events between 2 kids and our own social life. I guess I don't realize how packed it is, until my own mother gives me shit about how we should slow down, blah blah blah. One thing I don't wanna do, is wake up and have the kids fully run my life. This way, if we integrate both, our friends and their kids we too reap the benefits!

Over this past weekend, at a "get-together", there was a group of women sitting discussing birth, pregnancy, etc. and I thought to myself this is why I wrote my book! They all want the same answers, and the ones who don't want to know everything can skip a chapter. But it was in a group (some not related to me in any way), and we live completely different lives, and we have that commonality! Funny thing is, I was sitting there for about a ten min. (some know of this book) and it did not even come up, a resource that is..just reinforces all this time, and energy I am putting into this is worth it!!!

Aight, so that's what I am gonna do...I am going to be more proactive writing in my blog...b/c if I don't, I just look bad! HA

XOXO
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SERIOUSLY?!?!?! More impt. than EVER!

http://nyp.st/j7TTfp

Not about the baby, simply about the job!

I rarely talk about what I do, of course this is not a blog about that..BUT, I do in fact have a full on career:)

http://blogs.forbes.com/work-in-progress/2011/05/25/what-i-know-now-aka-the-hindsight-is-2020-edition-for-the-graduating-class/

Some important news to follow...especially if you, someone you know, etc. is about to graduate! I contributed to a piece posted by forbes.com...pass along to anyone who might find it helpful!

XOXO
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Here comes BO/CCO Junior!

I am literally on pins and needles, it's Friday May 20th 12:33 PM EST, and I am awaiting the final text on the soon to be arrival of Baby Overzat! I know this is going to make me want another one, MORE than I already do! I feel like I am kinda having a 3rd living through it all right now...it's more excitement than this hung-over girl can take!!!!

Is it a Girl? Is it a Boy? AAARRRRHHH...
Stay Tuned!
XOXO
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IF YOU DON'T PARENT ALIKE WHO IS "THE BETTER" PARENT?1

AND Don't for one moment say there is no such thing! There has to be!
When do you decide that you can't have your kid hang with the one that does not parent like you;? And when I say not like me, I mean like not even remotely close to me! Amazing to think that you can find yourself in that situation, when you never thought they would ever be like that...and then it makes you look like the bad guy, or rather them the bad guy and you insane! UGH...

So, really what do you do? I think you have to take everything with a grain of salt. You have to be able to let things roll off your shoulders, and realize that they are nothing like you, so their parenting styles will differ too. When do you bring the issue up if at all is my question? If you don't parent alike are you supposed to draw attention to that? OR are you supposed to just "let it be?"

I do feel so much more comfortable with those around me that parent like me, and those that do not...well I guess it just depends on the friend or family member how much it bothers me. Even if it does bother my tremendously, I keep that to myself until I am away from them.

UGH Sorry people, can't we all just get along???
Until next time!
XOXO
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6 Months and about 60 more years to go...

I thought that when Lila turned 6 months, I would feel differently than I do now! With Aiden, I ALMOST felt physically normal by this time, ALMOST...and had gotten my life to where I could stand it. This time, I never really felt so out of control with a new baby, just can't get my body where I want it to be...it takes SOOO much longer round 2, and is THAT much harder. I have to be honest, that's such a deterance from having another one..as awful as that is to say! I don't know, not loving that part one bit!
I think that's the one thing that has really taken some getting used to.

2 is certainly not 1, but it is manageable. I am feeling lately like I am kind of living in the twilight zone at work, and at home. Nothing is quite right (As they say) everything's a little off, but I am not sure in what ways. Some things and issues are larger than others, some are smaller issues I think I am making bigger! In all which ways, things just feel off. NOW given I am a Libra and that's the sign of balance, all of this does not sit well with me. I am forced to try and change things that are out of my control, not something I am used to nor do I like. I am annoyed it seems with just about everyone, minus just a couple of people, not at all normal for me. I don't like that feeling either, and I wish I could say that I am overwhelmed with my kids, but it's not even them!!! I don't remember the last time things felt so unsettled, and I am sure whenever that was is a time I have since blocked out.

I am always the one giving advice to my friends, and for some reason I need advice and I am not sure who to talk to? I talk to my mom about everything but she's got her own shit going on...and when I compare things with me, to things with her...hers ou-weigh mine enormously! It's that time in life when things shift and change again, and I am not good with that kind of change. As something bigger out there sits waiting for me, I just muddle through until I see it, as clear as day...certainty, clarity...no more fog.

JESUS H that days's gotta come F__G FAST!!!
Been a long time I know, doing the best that I can, one day at a time! Until next post...
XOXO
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"WHAT A LONG STRANGE TRIP IT'S BEEN!"...

I am seriously not sure how Brian and I got through the past 2 months...we spent the better portion of it in hospitals, and not with each other...or our kids. I am truly thankful that for all the bad, the outcome was good...I mean all things considered. I am THRILLED to kick February the hell outta the ball-park, and move forward to a hopefully much brighter March.

Lila James is now 4 months and just growing more everyday! I am so in love with her it's amazing to think you can feel that love all over again, as you did with your 1st! I spent Friday night with my best friend Dana, we shipped her kids off with her husband and Te Cohen kids were home in NYC with mine! It was THE best 12 hours in SUCH a long time; we both seriously needed an evening like that! What happened to the days of meeting after work, with 2 bottles of wine (and then some) and going over every detail of our day? We now savor those times and pray for those times together, that makes them THAT much more special!

I sometimes miss my old life if just chilling without a care in the world, and then something slaps me in the face (or spits up on my shirt) to remind me that's an old chapter in my life, and as fun as it was...I would not change my life for one MOMENT! I will have that time back when the kids are grown and will yearn for the times I am going through with them now; I cannot forget that! I TRY and not forget that...

OYE what a freaking month and a 1/2, I wanna kick January and February 2011's asses!

XOXO
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HAPPY NEW YEAR!

2010 came and went faster than I had ever anticipated! Had a wonderful holiday with both kids and my man...lots of nothing which was incredibly divine! I have a laundry list of things to do, finishing touches on the book and then some...but can't seem to get myself going! Considering it's just January 4th I won't be too hard on myself!

Here is a pic of Aiden enjoying the winter snow...God I love my kid!

XOXO
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