"REACH OUT AND TOUCH...SOMEBODY'S HAND"...

I had THE strangest dream of all time on Saturday night. One thing that happens while pregnant, are the insanely strange dreams that occur! I STILL remember some of them that I had when pregnant the 1st time, one hanging off a cliff by the umbilical chord, me trying to pull the baby up! Just some really wacky ones. Funny enough, this go round I have not remembered my dreams as vividly...until...

Sunday morning, I woke up in NJ and felt like I had just experienced the craziest thing EVER, that did not even really happen. Brian was still asleep next to me, Aiden was up and at em with my mom (we spend the night in NJ and thank GOD for her, she takes Aiden and let's us sleep!!!). I sat up, turned to him and told him that in my dream our little bugger reached out of my belly and I held her hand! It was the cutest/creepiest thing EVER, but aw I tell you..I fell in love with that little baby even more!

I remember watching my belly when Aiden was in there having no idea what was to come, this go round I feel and see all the flips and realize what's to come! It has now gotten to the point where Aiden sits on my lap, pulls my shirt up and rubs my belly AND my boobs. I think she thinks that they are all one in the same, like part of each other. I see the excitement is there, but she also seems quite nervous. I think she is just realizing that the baby will be here to stay!

UGH so many things going on in my brain, so many emotions...what to do with all of it, when you can't rely on a good drink it is VERY tricky!!! I feel like the photo I just posted MOST of the time!

XOXO
BTC

THE RACHEL ZOE "OTHER" PROJECT...

I have been watching "The Rachel Zoe Project" lately, my business partner (the other Beth) suggested I watch it, for business purposes and general amusement. I have to admit being in this industry she seems pretty chill...no mindless name calling, throwing foreign objects at assistants, one upping the people who work for her simply because she's insecure (oh come on we have all had bosses like that in fashion). All in all a pretty cool chick, that a great eye!

Last nights episode circled around fashion week AND fashion off spring. She seems to be struggling with the idea of having children and if there is ever the right time. It's weird, I find that whatever you make a priority, even if you don't realize it, is what you consider important. Granted my career is not as crazy as hers but...it's not an easy thing balancing and having it all. I don't think there's ever a good time, actually I know there isn't but really, is there a better time? Then I look at all these celebrities that have babies in their 40's and how they do it so beautifully, so why not have it now? Would the public's perception of the fact that you might not want to have kids, change the way they think about you as it relates to your career? I would have to say probably, yes.

I think there are some people who are MADE to be mom's and then mom's that don't realize they are made to be mom's, until after they become mom's. I want Rachel Zoe to have a baby, why I am making this my concern I haven't a clue, and who am I to tell her what to do? I can say from one career mom to a potential other, you CAN have it all...you may lose your mind in the interim but it IS possible. They just kinda do it all with you, and become part of your routine. I have a kid that dresses up like a princess, in high heels and all...lip-gloss and handbags galore! She is a part of my world and loving every minute of them. She comes everywhere with me and when she can't that's ok too. We try to parent together, but pitch hit when we can; one picks up the slack for the other.

I am now on the, "I want Rachel Zoe to have a baby kick" just like her sister and I don't know her from a hole in the wall! Rachel if you can hear me, do it...you will be an amazing mom, and Roger and amazing Dad. You were a beautiful bride and will be a beautiful mother. It's incredibly hard to do it all, but it IS doable...let me know if you need any tips, HA!

XOXO
BTC

GIVE ME AN INCH OR I WILL TAKE A GODDAMN YARD!

How on earth does a person wake up and realize that the life they lived just a couple of years ago, is no longer...AND when discovering that how do you help those around you, recognize that too? More importantly, how do you remind people who are older than you, that went through the same life transitions; but certainly need a "refresher" course?

Sometimes people just don't get it! AND I understand why...it's impossible to imagine having a kid, one on the way; or 2+ if you don't have any! Me included! I had no idea the amount of shit that goes into this, until I did it myself! So, I guess I kinda answered my question...there is no golden rule, or straight up way...possibly just the old fashion way of constantly reminding "these" people. Part of me gets too annoyed to try and explain it, while another part of me sounds like a broken record! I try and think to myself, if it were me and Aiden was grown up would I annoy her about some of the things people annoy us about? GOD I hope not! I really hope I am not that person, and when she does remind me...a light goes off in my head! Someone told me one of the smartest things I have ever heard, that having children is the hardest thing you will ever love...AMEN to that! It truly is. The best AND the hardest thing you will ever love.

Why is enough never enough? Why is it than an ample amount of time not sufficient? Why is a whole weekend required when one night is doable? Why is a 3 course meal in demand, when 1 course is the most effective? All questions to answer AFTER you have a kid, because your answers will DRASTICALLY change!

IF you know someone pregnant with their 1st ,2nd, 3rd whatever give them a goddamn break. Take a moment and just think, you know what they have a lot of shit on their plate; and a lot of shit in their belly. Let me cut them a little slack. Know that it's not about you, it's about them...and LET it be about them for at least those 9 months!

I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend...I know I am, I am extra exhausted these days! Helping the kid put on weight is no joke!

XOXO
BTC

THE PRICE OF BOOTY!!!!

OMG the most amazing thing happens around the 7th month, you fat ass no longer looks so fat because your stomach is so big! It balances out the roundness in the back, with the roundness in the front! It's kind of amazing!

I just came back from one of my many trips to my office bathroom, and realized as I turned to walk out (I tend to avoid the mirror for obvious reasons) my ass looked smaller. DARE I say that? THEN I realized my ass was still huge but my stomach even larger.

WHO KNEW!?!?!?

WHY WON'T IT JUST FLOW LIKE A RIVER...

Why is it that when you feel like you have to pee SO badly, which is like every 10 minutes, you get there and it takes effort to get it out? Do you know what I am talking about?

I find that when I sit down to pee, i have to literally work at getting it out? When not pregnant you sit, you pee and it's like aaaahhh. NOT the case while pregnant! I seriously have to sit down even when I have to pee SO badly and concentrate on getting it out. I have actually tried leaning back, I tried sitting forward but nothing seems to help. Does this sound totally strange? This starting happening around month 5, and is getting increasingly worse as I get more pregnant. I do remember the same thing happened last time.

My world seems upside down when it comes to peeing! UGH The simple things become so much more difficult.

More to come in a bit, but for now I gotta PEE PEE!!!!

PS: DO YO KNOW THOSE FAMILY MEMBERS THAT ONLY CALL WHEN THEY NEED SOMETHING? THE SAME ONES THAT ARE SELFISH ENOUGH TO ONLY SEE YOU ON THEIR TERMS? YEAH THEM...IS IT LIKE A PREREQUISITE FOR EVERYONE TO HAVE AT LEAST ONE OF THOSE? SOOO DON'T HAVE TIME FOR THAT SHIT!

DIRTY THOUGHTS...

Sometimes I feel like a porn star in my own right...basically, the types of positions Brian and I need to come up sometimes to make sex happen successfully, can at times make me feel incredibly skanky...NOT necessarily a bad thing, but...I'm just saying.

PS: BO this one's for you and CCO!

COUNTING SHEEP...WHILE WIDE AWAKE!!!

The idea of more sleep is so damn appealing I compare it to a fantastic, large glass of cab. that I CANNOT have.

One thing that increases like wind during a storm is lack of freaking sleep! I have to pee AT LEAST 5-7 times a night, and so if you do the math...that would mean almost once an hour! NOT to mention my daughter who (like clockwork) has to get up at least once a night to pee herself, sometime between 1-3 AM! SO if you add that to the amount of times I get up we are nearly at 8! What can you to improve sleep? NOT A DAMN THING! Not pee?? Not possible! That's the thing you HAVE to get up and you HAVE to pee. I try and pass over the responsibility of helping Aiden to the bathroom in the night to Brian, but sometimes he does not even hear her calling us!

My feeling is that this is the way you get somewhat prepared to be up all night, with a newborn. Happened to me the first time but I had no idea that I would literally not sleep for more than like 30 minutes at a time; especially if you breast feed for MONTHS! AND there's no putting anyone on a schedule for at least the first 3 month, FORGET the let the kid cry it out until like month 4, 5. That is a hell of a long time to wait, months are like years in this condition!

So, sleep...it becomes non-existent. When people said to me enjoy your sleep now because you will never sleep again they were not kidding!!! Let's see what do I hate more than anything? When Brian tells me he's so tired and not quite sure why...with a smile. That means he remembers he is looking at his wife who is 8 months pregnant with his second child, running a business, managing a 3 year old, putting out a book and then some. He kindly takes it back and realizes he sounds like a total ass! BUT what do you do when you meet the other people who don't know as well, who say the same thing? Smile and walk away...and then think about how good it would feel to trade lives with them for 24 hours. If you have not experienced the difference you can't blame those who do not know. Just think at some point in their lives they probably will.

What can the people you love do to help? Do it all for you! Make sure your husband/wife/partner whatever picks up the slack. Have them do the dishes, cook, take care of the kid a bit more than you, etc. I am still reluctant to ask for help because I like to do it all myself, but then there comes a time when you MUST pass along some of the responsibility or you will DIE of exhaustion! It's the little things, and PLEASE unlike me...cancel plans, lighten your schedule if you work or run a business or just do too much. Make sure and take some time for you so that on the weekends you can literally do nothing...I mean there's no such thing as nothing...but you get my drift! It will help when you can look forward to not spending so much time in the car. Have people come to YOU, especially those that NEVER offer; bottom line then just don't see them!!!

On a much lighter note:
WTF is that STUPID quizno's commercial where the damn cat is dressed up in an ancient 1800's outfit singing about pricing? DO you guys knows what I am talking about? I seriously do not know how commercials like that, can be made! I am in a fragile state and that just makes me want to punch the television EVERY time!

**It's "Terrible Tuesday" people, you know what that means...a little something one of my best friends from my days Oprah labeled, and since then Tuesdays havw never been the same!

XOXO
BTC

NAME CRISIS!

We had finally moved on and chosen a name, we all thought we loved...and then there was me, it all changed last Friday!

I walked onto the bus Friday on my way to work when I heard it...the name I thought we had gotten over and had also abandoned...alas, it caught me by surprise. I loved the way it sounded and it was a girl too, it's not typically just a girls name. I turned to see if I thought the girl was cute (naturally it's always helps when you associate the name with someone cute) and really she was not super cute; BUT I was so attached to the name for that moment it truly did not matter! I felt a twinge in my stomach and thought to myself OMG I am now going to take the name we all agreed on, and muddy the waters. At the end of the day this will be my babies name forever. It will not change and I/we really need to LOVE it! I don't want something weird but I want something that says Brian and Beth's kid, the same way Aiden Rae does. So now how to break the news to my husband AND my mom the 2 major players in the name game for me?
"UH, the pressure of a name....CINDA FUCKEN RELLA!" -Name that movie!!!

I met Brian on Friday afternoon (remember I had to have those tests at the hospital) and blurted out, babe do you love the name we already chose? He said, "yes what do you mean, oh no Beth do you not love it?" I had to tell him the whole bus story and really after I was finished he kind of got what I was saying. Even though Aiden is SUPER girly her name is not...it's just so "us" and beyond perfect for her. It is different (as in it's typically used for boys) but yet not strange like the name, Elektra or some other shiteous name. I wanted to feel the same way about this name and also really wanted it to go together. So here we are weeks away from having the kid and changing the name yet again. I have to tell you, when you don't know the sex (as we did not the first time and I have to say something I prefer) and not wanting to know this time either, but having a really dumb technician slip...I prefer not knowing. I don't know, I just did not identify with it the way you do when you know. I think it's cool that we have experienced both...BUT if we have another one after this I am certainly going back to the not knowing!

In any event, the entire weekend involved having family meetings with Aiden, myself and Brian (mom included in at least one of those) and going over the names again. We have come to the conclusion that Brian needs to sit with our choice for a moment and my mom and I love the other name we thought about, from the beginning...NOT the one we settled on a couple of weeks ago. Either way, whatever name we choose I know will suit her perfectly...just a total shit show trying to figure things like that out! You would think it would be easier the 2nd time around!

Speaking of which, you always hear how much HARDER it is with 2 kids (lucky me) but what you don't hear is how much EASIER it is preparing for #2, when you already have a #1! I said to Brian yesterday short of clothing (if you are having a different sex) everything else is pretty much the same. You know all the things you need for the 1st 6 weeks, you know the things that are major in the beginning i.e. place to sleep, toiletries, diapers, bottles, pump if you need it and really that's it...oh and a swing that damn swing saved me life with Aiden! Short of that, it all works itself out AND you already have everything that you need. I feel a lot less stressed about materials needed, apparently so...the clock is ticking and we have done very little. Do you guys or did you guys find that to be true? I mean granted 2 is very different than one but when it's still cooking in there the prep. work I find...is cake compared to round 1. I see these people walking around the baby stores clueless with guns, AH those were the days:)

On a completely different note:

I have attached a pic of Aiden and her Uncle Greggy, one of Brian's best friends from childhood. Here they are getting married (yes married) at his house this past weekend...Aiden's in her new goggles she is obsessed with and a princess robe that Gregg gave her, that use to belong to his daughter Lexi! I swear he is THE most amazing person with Aiden and I love the way they love each other...it's truly something special. I have a very similar relationship with Greggy and one that I truly value. There is something to be said for great friends just like great family, you can't beat that kinda love...and we have so much of it all the way around, I feel truly blessed!


Aight check yah later!
XOXO
BTC

MOVE OVER BABY, HERE MY ORGANS COME!

Had to go for an ultrasound...long story short had some pain...blah, blah, blah here I am...

Did you know that all your organs are LITERALLY pulled up and pushed in different directions when you are pregnant? I mean, I had read about it (in the medical books) but I did not LITERALLY know what that meant. So there I was 1/2 naked on a mobile, uncomfortable bed at Cornell Medical, with a technician who barely cracked a smile (I had Brian join because I can't really kung fu fight if I needed to, if he decided to attack me, behind closed doors ,1/2 naked...like I could if I was NOT pregnant), to have an ultrasound. OH oh, also I had to fast for 6 hours prior to the test, WATER included! Not fun for anyone, but especially not fun post 30 weeks of pregnancy!

There I was in this cold, sterile, grooooosss room taking deep breaths flat on my back for the fist 10 minutes. I felt like I was going to A. pass out from breathing so heavily B. throw up because I was so sick from not eating and C. trying to constantly crack jokes, so that I could crack the code of this incredibly weird technician. My next move was to turn over on my left side (THANK GOD b/c as many of you know it's much more comfortable) to then do the same drill of deep breathing, etc. Mind you he was using so much warming gel I felt like I was gearing up for sex with Brian with KY (not likely he fell asleep in the dark room on a chair waiting for me). In any event, the same thing went down on my right side and before you know it I had been in the room for 30 minutes; and I was finally able to roll myself off of the bed...AND more importantly finally go get something to eat!

The moral of this post is..I had asked the technician why on earth was he looking for my liver, gallbladder, etc. all the way up under my boob? AND why did I have to turn over on both sides? His response, "Everything is pushed up and over" and he continued. AH WHAT? Everything is pushed up and over? WTF does that means? So my organs that are normally resting comfortably above my belly button, etc. are now literally up and all the way around? OYE! Seriously? That painted picture made me want to vomit!

It's amazing what a woman's body is capable of going, what our bodies go through during pregnancy IS truly amazing! I guess sometimes I lose site of all of the miraculous things we are able to do. Thankfully the tests were negative and all is fine, I apparently pulled some sort of muscle while working out or it's simple stretching pain...not sure which is worse, but...

Hope everyone's having a great weekend...I don't know weekends are just not the same when you can drink! Nice QT time with the fam, but...nothing like a drink on top of it all!

XOXO
BTC

NAME THAT STRIPPER!!!

I want to know, how many strange names can you think of? What's the craziest name you have ever heard...even if this person is all grown up, does their name sound like a stripper? A car wash? Something that fell down the stairs...I want to know...Send me some of the strangest names you have encountered...inquiring minds what to know!!!

On another note...I feel so lucky, I really do...for all of the things, places, people I get to meet and know, I feel lucky. Life can be tricky, what's that saying it's not what you know it's who you know? Well that seems to be true...but the thing is, if you know "those" people aren't you one step ahead of the game anyway? Don't you have to find yourself in a position to know them...to be cultured and educated and schooled enough in your field to be surrounded by such amazing people? The world is a strange place but I feel VERY lucky to be where I am today. It took lots of hard work and dedication, lots of sleepless nights and canceled plans, LOTS of trust and then some to build a reputation that's strong enough to weather the strongest storm...I feel lucky.

I feel lucky to have gotten pregnant not one but two times when I have friends that are still in the struggle, I feel lucky to expose Aiden to all of the colors of the rainbow in a place like NYC. There is no place I would rather share my life experiences than here in New York, the giant melting pot of the world. Sometimes it's hard being different (whatever that difference might be) but I would not have it any other way. The journey of both my pregnancies have changed me as a person, and for that I am forever grateful! You learn to love differently, selflessly, and most importantly with all of your heart. You can't help those that can't help themselves...or feel guilty for your success over theirs; you can only work on yourself

So, I am thankful today and every other day...

BUT still not naming my kid after a toy, stripper, cartoon, or past ghetto movie icon...next thing you know I will meet someone named Abalonia!

Have a good one!
XOXO
BTC

42nd 9th HERE HE COMES!!!

http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20412790,00.html

There are no words.....
WELL yes there are, WTF is wrong with people...
More shit on a stick...what's that saying? Shut your pie hole?
He will definitely be reincarnated as a gay, busted, drag queen...reincarnated into everything he says he hates but probably secretly loves!

TALK ABOUT RUSSIAN ROULETTE...

Russian Roulette that's the game we play when producing the little ones, we just never know what we are going to get!

Here's the thing, I come from a mixed background (caucasion mom/African American Dad) and married a very cute caucasion/Jewish man. Basically my apt. is like the UN! Given all of the color mixing we were just not sure what (now Aiden our first child) was going to look like? It's like gambling and getting the best case scenario! Given she was only going to be a quarter African American the chances of her being brown were...well slim to none! My husband wished and wished we would have a little brown baby but to no avail. We got what we got, and what we got is BEAUTIFUL! She's like this little golden child:) And what she lacked in color she made up in personality!

So there we were patiently waiting in the delivery room for her to arrive (we did not know if we were having a boy or a girl), to see what on earth we had produced. For most people, that's the biggest surprise of all...the sex, but for us we were waiting to see the shade of the baby too!!! To some that may sound just insane, but really for us it was a normal thought!

Is this weird that I am talking about this? Probably to most, but truly it is something we think about often! Now, once again with this one in my belly we wonder like any normal parent, what the baby will look like? Will the baby look like Aiden? Will the baby be the same color? Lighter? Darker? I know in my own family (I have a little brother) he is lighter than I am. We resemble one another but are 2 completely different color tones! WOW there are so many things to think about when having a baby, who knew betting on what color your kid would be...would be one of them!

I can't imagine what my parents went through in the 70's! I walk down the street on the UES sometimes and people often think I am my daughter's nanny...I S__T you NOT! A post for another time:)

Is it the weekend yet? Off to the dr. shortly. I now see her every other week, and that will soon progress into every week. This is the so not fun part, the part when you just play the waiting game. I had Aiden a couple of weeks early, so God willing this one will come a bit early but not too early! I pray, not about world peace but about that!

More to come kids, more to come!
XOXO
BTC

PREGNANCY DOES NOT TAKE EVERY BRAIN CELL FROM YOUR BODY!

How do you help people to understand that you are not stupid, you are just pregnant??!!?
I find that people often mistake your pregnancy for a "condition" that you can't "help." In other words being pregnant does not mean you can't think the same way...you might be a bit slower than you were when not pregnant but hey...the baby does come out! Why do people think the way you would normally react or deal with a situation might change? AND typically I find it is the people who are younger than you AND certainly less experienced in their field. You want to slap them and say listen, I have been around the block a few times, paid my dues being pregnant is not a handicap!

I find that some of it must be dependent on the way you look...in my business if you can't move faster than a fox you might miss out on an opportunity! HOWEVER there are plenty of people who have had babies, successfully...some more successfully than others, but I think people forget that they have mother's too...and if they didn't, well then they would not be here!!!

On the other hand there are times when I do feel completely overwhelmed by everything and the last thing I need is a dumb email from someone...but then I think, really I would feel the same way with or without kids and pregnancy. A dumb email is a dumb email! An annoying person is annoying person, etc. I like the, "never let them see you sweat" kinda attitude, and it's worked pretty well from me. Gets the job done even if I am upside down and turned around inside. I welcome the day when these people marry and have babies and are still trying to run their "perfect" businesses. I know that day will come, so I just sit back patiently waiting for it to happen...and really by then, I will be done having the kids and running the GODMAN WORLD!!! Well not really, but that just sounded like a good ending to my paragraph:)

On a lighter note, Aiden said to me today..."Mama I know you have to go pee pee but can you go downstairs I have to go to the bathroom up here...she then paused and said, "Is that even possible?" So apparently I am now the size of a mack truck to my daughter too! UGH TGIIAO (thank god it's almost over)!!!

PS: Rule #248 never let them see you sweat, because once you do...you lose all credibility!

Hope everyone's having a FABU weekend!
XOXO
BTC

GOD F___G BLESS...

REECES PEANUT BUTTER CUPS!!!
I'm just saying...
xoxo
BTC

MEN WILL BE BOYS...OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT...

I learned something while pregnant the first time, that's just now being reinforced for a second time...Men (straight or gay) say really dumb things to pregnant women. I am not sure if it's just because the notion of pregnancy is so foreign to them or because they are just plain stupid. It may, realistically, be the a little bit of both.

When men say things like," Better you than me" about being pregnant, I often say there is a reason men are not the ones that do this...bottom line is they are pussy's and we are not. My all time favorite thing that is often said is, "OMG your belly is HUGE!" OK fucker, well you see...I have a baby in there, and it grows exponentially by the moment, so yeah my belly IS huge. Remember your mama carried you around for 9 months or you would not even be here; need I remind them that? I think the ones that are more sensitive of course are the ones who have wives that have gone through it. I think the ones who are the least sensitive are the ones that have not experienced it second hand. In any event, it's a total shit show.

How do you deal with these types of situations? Here is one of my suggestions:

IDIOT-"Hi Beth it's so good to see you..OMG your belly is HUGE, no Beth your belly is HUGE" (like I did not hear it the first time mind you)
BTC-"Um thanks so much for pointing that out, not really...kinda where I should be for this point in my pregnancy!"
IDIOT-"Really? I don't know...where you that big during your first pregnancy?"
BTC-"I am so flattered that you remember what I was like last time, given you are a gay, single man"

At least "we" women don't have to worry about sweaty balls and baby powder!

GOD is it Friday yet? I am so needing it to be, besides being BEYOND exhausted I just don't feel like looking at anyone's face for a couple of days...including my own!

CIAO FOR NOW!
More to come kids, more to come...
XO
BTC

WHEN YOU JUST NEED NOT SAY ANYTHING!

This is the shit that makes me crazy!

http://blog.giselebundchen.com.br/en/sentido/a-importancia-da-amamentacao/

"Remember how Gisele Bundchen said that mothers who don't breastfeed their babies should be shackled and thrown into prison for the rest of their lives? And remember how you drove by Gisele's house last night and threw out a titty balloon full of spoiled milk with a note attached that read "Breastfeed on this so your bitch ass can shut up already!". Remember that? If you don't, you should go suckle on a bottle of Ginkgo, because this happened yesterday so your memory might be going. But I'm disgressing all over the place again!

Gisele went on her blog last night to clarify the "there should be a worldwide breastfeeding law" comment she made to Harper's Bazaar UK. Gisele wrote:
My intention in making a comment about the importance of breastfeeding has nothing to do with the law. It comes from my passion and beliefs about children. Becoming a new mom has brought a lot of questions, I feel like I am in a constant search for answers on what might be the best for my child. It’s unfortunate that in an interview sometimes things can seem so black and white. I am sure if I would just be sitting talking about my experiences with other mothers, we would just be sharing opinions. I understand that everyone has their own experience and opinions and I am not here to judge. I believe that bringing a life into this world is the single most important thing a person can undertake and it can also be the most challenging. I think as mothers we are all just trying our best.
The next time Gisele doesn't LITERALLY mean something, she should use the word LIT-TERALLY in front of it so we know not to take her statement seriously.-DILISTED

Take a look at what Giselle has to say about breastfeeding, and then retracting her statement because she sounded like a total ASS! From the beginning I have always said my blog was going to be about me, but that I would also try and be somewhat subjective, when necessary; whatever works for you kinda thing...but what I cannot tolerate is rampant rants about things that might not work for everyone. I mean, she should obviously stick to modeling, she's got looks but that does not necessarily mean she's got the brains!

Here's the thing, Giselle, biselle, miselle whoever the hell you are...you have a right to take a passionate stance re: breastfeeding. You can believe it in, feel it, live it, breathe it, but that does NOT mean you can be intolerant of those who do not shares your same sentiments. I think there's a fine line to be crossed in that regard and many people cross it without realizing what it is that they are saying. Why is it that the breastfeeders can't condone the non-breastfeeders, but the formula feeders don't say (or typically do not) negative things about the breastfeeders? Or if they do, they certainly do it quietly...I know I do:)

I think I finally know where I stand on this issue...I believe and condone both behaviors. It is not contingent on what I "believe" to be right, more so dependent on the mother and the child. Who am I to judge someone who decides it is indeed the best thing to do, given the proven medical history they are probably correct. On the other hand, some chose not to do it just because, some literally are not able to, and some try and it just does not work out for anyone...

In conclusion, watch your mouth! Words are powerful especially when it comes to women who are pregnant, post pregnant breastfeeding, etc. What is good for you may not be good for others and that's just what makes the world more colorful. It is such a controversial topic I doubt it will ever go away, but maybe one day we will live in a world where the breastfeeders can share the same general space as a formula feeders, and live in perfect harmony!

Awwww, the joys of pregnancy...NOT!

XOXO
BTC

NAME THAT TUNE...

I know I have talked about this before, but I must address it again...it's just tooooo juicy!

What is it about names that gets everyone so fired up? AND why is it that people think that their opinion genuinely counts? Is it possible that their insecurities about their own name, make them feel like they need to attack other people and the names that they choose? I still to this day, do not understand. IF you ask someone for their opinion it is then appropriate, if not...the best you can do is fake a smile and pretend you like it. What is the harm in doing that? If you feel the need to talk about the fact that you do not like it, then by all means please do...with someone else! Showing a family of 40 a face that insinuates you do not like a name choice...just super annoying!

How do you find a nice way of accepting things that others decide, the ones you love...without pushing your own opinions on them to harshly? Is there a way? Is there a way of accepting things even if you don't love whatever they are choosing? I think my mom did...I know when we first decided on the name Aiden Rae, she was not thrilled. She loved Aiden but was not in love with Rae. Funny enough, she loves it now...and tried her BEST to not push her own opinions on us; however, she is the mother and I think mother's can be exempted from this rule. I also think when you talk to a friend or family member and you have them involved in the choosing process, that's fine too. I use naming as an example but really it could be anything from the clothes you wear, to the names you choose to the foods you eat, etc.

Please do try and remember that we are more fragile than ever, our emotions are ALL over the damn map...so all we need is positive love and attention, anything past that...shut it!

Ah, what is that saying "Love and Light?" Yeah eff you...I need a beer!
XOXO
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