WHAT'S THAT SAYING...EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON?

I have to take comfort in saying that, "everything happens for a reason" because for so much of my life that is the ONLY thing that has gotten me by. If you think it, it can be...but if you think about it, what is "the reason?" I think that when you have something to say, think or anything like that it makes the unbearable, bearable. It gives you hope that things will get better, even if you can't see the end result before it appears. Then the question becomes does it happen for a reason, or does life just work the way it is supposed to b/c there is always another outcome, to solve a problem you think can never be solved? I would like to think there's some truth to things happening, and the outcome being your life's path...BUT, also think whoever said that needed that "slogan" to get by! If you are celebrating Easter this weekend, then I hope you spend it with the people you love! If not, then it's a great time to buy good candy at the Duane Reade's of the world! XOXO BTC

Family holidays are sometimes like staying in a Turkish prison...or so I gather!

We have the lovely luxury of celebrating both religion's holidays..and it really is a beautiful thing! HOWEVER having both Passover AND Easter in one week, is just a bit MUCH; if you know know what I mean! How do you deal with everyone, at literally one time...without killing each other, or you own husband and kids?!?!?! The dynamics never really change, unless you add a new variable (like new peeps)...we have not (fortunately) had to do that in some time, on both sides! Everyone is really with their significant other, so no new additions on the horizon; BUT you have to deal with those same people. Oh joy joy... Happy Passover and ALMOST Easter! xoxo BTC

THIS IS MY TURF, AND DON'T YOU FORGET IT!

SO what if you have a group of girls, in the burbs, and they rule the area...like they ruled their 8th grade, mediocre school. SO what if you are set aside and not included in things; AND your kid feels like shit. SO what if that is "just the way it is" in the burbs...WELLLLL SO WHAT if you decide you want to change that, and take over the mother fucking place! I hear this constantly with all of my friends, that there are "mean girls" in their new suburban areas; so my question is why not take over? TAKE OVER THE DAMN AREA, and rule it. Push out those assholes who migrated (by marriage of course) to these over-priced, overly populated, ostentatious areas (and of course women with no careers just "managing" the homes), PUSH THEM OUT! Make them feel badly, make them feel like the way they act is NOT ok and if they don't change you will make their lives miserable (but of course always include their kids b/c you don't want any part of their bullshit). I mean you can't really make their lives miserable b/c you would be doing the same shit I am saying we hate, BUT...you feel me. I just don't get it, why do girls even allow this type of behavior to continue and why does asshole breed asshole. I now have a friend who is literally moving from her home, to escape this type of behavior; the same behavior she endured in HS. WHY WHY WHY! In any event, I just don't know if I will ever know how to handle all of this bullshit...how to "avoid" it if you can, but at the same time knowing that you have to be around them and your kids may even BE friends! "Why can't we all be friends"...and why is this getting worse by the moment? Generation X grew up, now we have kids are migrating to all of these towns. If we were horrible then, we are even MORE horrible now...more money, more kids, etc. Kind of a nightmare when you think about it! That is my wish for this evening, that my friends finds happiness where she goes...and those bitches get the OLD look like early onset, anything bad:) I know I know I am going to hell, but hey at least I know I will have company! XOXO BTC

"I can't get no...satisfaction..."

ONE of my favorite bands BY FAR...and also I think they were RIGHT on target with the name of that song! It's seriously true..is anyone EVER satisfied? I try to put myself in other people's shoes, when they say dumb shit like, "why didn't I get this or why didn't I get that?" My first inclination is to drop a punch, but realistically that won't get anyone, anywhere! So as I calm myself down and think, maybe they are not used to NOT getting what they want...and the moment something small goes off course they can't quite handle it. I have to tell myself that or else I would literally stop doing what I do for a living. I ask myself again, is anyone ever really satisfied? I think the short answer is, NO; but the long answer is yes in many ways. Or at least I would like to think so. I hope I am not one of those people that always seek more, wants more am not satisfied with my present life...I think that drive and the drive to succeed and do more, to be more should not be confused with feeling/being unsatisfied. I would like to think that the need or the want to want more, is simply to live a better life...NOT to live a different one. Count your blessings and take a moment to be thankful for WHAT you have, not what you DON'T have. I think there are so many people that need to learn that lesson. Have a FANTASTIC weekend...shit knows I need a BOTTLE to get me through today! XOXO BTC

"I WERK OUT..."

SO, the age old question just about everyone and their mother asks EVERYONE, "Do you work out?" Funny thing is about 10 years ago I might feel weird saying, yes and I actually work out at home. I guess I was novel in that day at a time when people only went to gyms and things of that nature. There were not a TON of pilates and yoga studios, it was LONG before Soul Cycle and Tracy Anderson; and most people did outdoor running if not gym time. I on the other hand always did it the fastest (and cheapest) way possible. My work out was is and always will be in my home! I am dedicated and when I mean dedicated...7 days a week, 6 minimum. Rain, snow, sunshine, cold, flu, all that jazz it never stops me. NOw that I think about it, it seems more like complete obsession but at the same time it's literally the ONLY thing on this planet that keeps me sane! Without a workout I am a complete mess, inside AND out. I feel off, I feel crazy, I feel big all the way around. My workout of choice is Tae Bo. Billy Blanks may have gone away with the 90's but he's alive and kicking in my household, DAILY. I have done it all and it's really THE most effective for my body. I need a TON of cardio, lots of sweating, body weight, resistance bands and a feeling that I am literally kicking someone's ass. I don't really believe in those people that say they hardly move and a kid just sucks on their tita. That breast feeding helped them get back into shape, what helps you get into shape is moving your ass and eating right. And when I say eating right, everything in moderation and portion controlled. I HAVE to move like this to stay small, I literally could not be like that without working out as much as I do and I know that...so for the rest of my life I will be sweating my ass off, in my home, while the across the street neighbors enjoy the view. I guess until I leave NYC...and then I will sweat it off in a nice, finished basement. CIAO! XOXO BTC

People's obsession with...PEOPLE!

What is it about famous people, that we "regular" people get obsessed with??? AND are we going to continually be that way? Or does something HAVE to give? There are so many different types of obsession it's hard to pin-point what's normal; and what's seriously insane! I think there are times I am really interested in what people are doing, wearing, going, seeing, etc. but I have a good grip on reality. Sometimes b/c we live in a world where everything is out there for everyone to see, people go a little bonkers! In my line of work you see it more often than not, b/c you have to work with some of these celebrities and balance the relationship between them and the designer. I am still figuring out HOW to balance that, without it being too...MUCH! OH well, off to drink...there's no better time like the present! XOXO BTC

"GIMME A BREAK...I SURE DESERVE IT."

You know all those people who always complain that they need a break...that they want to go away and take a vacation? That they can't believe everything that happens to them? I feel like one of those people, but the weird thing is...I think I hide it, and I hide it well! I want to pop them in the face sometimes when they say things like that b/c why are they able to be so open about it, I guess in some ways it makes them appear weak; and that's not something I really good with. It's also TOTALLY ridiculous it's just REALITY that people need a fucking break! Sometimes I think that God's gotta give me a break, and then I think to myself...I believe in a higher power but not necessarily a God so who am I really asking? There's no one that can change life, but YOU! BUT I do feel like Nell Carter said it right, "Gimme a break I sure deserve it..." BTC