SEX AND THE CITY...JUST ANOTHER BLOG

I was watching Sex & The City the other day and I thought to myself...I am surprised it took so long for blogs to catch on; or rather bloggers to begin, well...blogging. Essentially that's what Carrie did during the entire show, blog. It's an interesting thing to go back to that time and see all the things that they are talking about...case in point: Carrie was discussing how her computer crashed, and where she needed to take it, how she could back up, and why she needed to do it? She also mentioned that people could "shop" online, and that it was easier to email someone than to call. Strange to think that's the way we all communicate now, that that's the norm. I don't know I am still into actually speaking with my friends over the phone in addition to email. I like the connection that we have when we communicate that way but then I think to myself is that just my age? Am I too old to just accept communicating all the time the other way? Anyway, it's nice to put my feelings on paper...I guess I always did in some way, just putting more out there, more often. XOXO BTC

HOW TO HELP THE ONES YOU LOVE...EVEN WHEN THERE IS AN AGE GAP!

How can I tell my little Aiden that everything will be ok? That when she worries and gets anxious about things that this too shall pass. How do I make sure her feelings are warranted, but that she won't always feel so lost? It's now 10:30 PM and she is STILL up, in her bed, chatting with Dad. She can't quite get herself to sleep she is almost wired...and worried that she does not feel like "herself." How can you talk a 6 year old to sleep, when their mind is just racing? It's hard being a parents, some days more than others. I am shot myself, so about to go to bed but I am having a hard timing helping my little ones grow up. I know there is no manual for any of this, but what I do know is parents can really fuck up their kids...I SO don't want to be one of those people:) XOXO BTC

SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO....

It's the never ending question! Should we stay in NYC or move out to the burbs. There are SO many reasons I want to go, but then so many MORE reasons I want to stay. We often sit there and go around and around in circles and I think the main problem is that we do not WANT to move out; but feel compelled to make the move for other obvious reasons. How can I take my kids away from the most amazing melting pot ever, and move them to a place where everyone is more alike and they are different? I had that and it sucked a big moose cocka A LOT of the time. How can I take them away from their friends and things of that nature...when they will have to start over again? I don't have much to say about this, other than my brain is running a mile a minute with so many decisions to make, BIG life decisions and sometimes I just want it to all stop for a moment, so that I can take a deep breath. Have a wonderful weekend...XOXO BTC

FORGIVE AND FORGET...IF YOU ARE ABLE.

How do you forgive and forget? And by that I mean how do you REALLY forgive and forget. I think if you really love someone and really understand that something that may have happened does not define who they are, you are able to forgive and really forget. I find that forgiveness is WAY easier than forgetting...it's just not as easy. I find myself reliving the things I hated about the person. It is probably something that is much harder for women to deal with, than men. Men don't even give a shit about the things we care about in friendships (for the most part) so that makes things that they do or don't do less, well, "important." I would like to think that I am a forgiving person, and that I look at the long lasting effects if I don't forgive. It can effect your every being and then BOOM you run into the person and you want to kill yourself b/c you have so many unresolved issues. Is it always possible to resolve issues? Can friends just fall out of love? I mean I guess so, but it seems to me in most cases there is always a catalyst. Otherwise relationships take work on both sides, friendships and love relationships. If you don't want to work at it anymore I guess you can say some sort of breakup is imminent. I do feel that there is a part of me that's weak in that way, that if someone I used to be friends with and in ways longed to still be friends with, wanted that relationship again...I may just jump back in, with both feet and hope for the best. XOXO BTC

HOPING TO HELP MY LITTLE ONE, ONE DAY AT A TIME...

I think the single most important thing I have done lately, is to help Aiden be the best person that she can be...and feel the best that she can feel. We have had some issues with her being anxious about school, friends, life in general and we wanted to make sure we got her the proper help, and fast! I think one of the single more important things to do with a child is to make sure that you seek early intervention, IF there is an issue. This will give you and your child the chance to gauge the severity of the issue and to take aim on treatment. We found a wonderful therapist for her to talk to, and so far so good! SO if you have someone or know someone that needs help, intervene at an early stage if you can, it can make all the difference. XOXO BTC

WELCOME TO THE JUNGLE...

BACK to reality for most people, post holidays I think is THE worst time EVER! It's like being in limbo, nothing immediately following to make you happy and it's totally freezing so no one even wants to go anywhere! I am sorry to say, I am so not a fan. I hate this time of year, I am hoping that next year I will be much more in the holiday spirit...for now, just trying to hold it together. XOXO BTC

2013

What's in store for everyone this year, no one knows...all that wonder and excitement for new beginnings and ends to endings. It's nice to walk around and hear Happy New Year from those you know and love and then also from complete strangers. A lovely new feeling in the air. I am slightly a cynic when it comes to New Years resolutions and things of that nature, but this year I am going to going to make one and prove MYSELF wrong! This year, I am going to get the things done I always want to get done but never could seem to find the time. I am going to focus on those larger things by taking smaller steps to complete them. I am going to embrace the new and say adios to the old. I am going to do those things this year, so that I don't make myself crazy thinking about the things that I could NOT control in 2012. I hope everyone has a lovely New Year, wishing health and happiness to all. Tomorrow's another day... XOXO BTC